Pornography is the future . . . and haters gonna hate !

     I’ve seen many posts about the woman condition in front of a society ruled by men. And I think that it is important to not forget nowadays the position we have in our woman condition, because of this complete absurd pressure that puts on us. But there is a soft ambiguity in the arguments I’ve red that I need to discuss.

    Lot of feminists seem to oppose men and women as two class in a fight where men are the oppressors. I cannot agree with them on this point because I would have a more systematic approach on the gender problem. I really think that men are as we are, victims of  the speech that have the society about gender and sexuality. But we usually think that it is more easy to be a man in our society because the majority of the structures have been built by men. So they're home aren't they ? Actually, I doubt that, and this is a very dishonest posture, maybe the most blind we can have on the problem. Gender is an existential problem, and every human is limited by it.

     In fact, I've worked a lot on pornography, something that we make as one of the biggest destructor of the image of the woman, certainly because it build a very awful image of what women should be but also because we are extremely sexists, and we never payed attention about how men can be hurted in the pornography too. That’s why I’m here to defend what pornography as one of the greatest reflect of our society, can add to the struggle for the emancipation of the gender and the sexuality.

Pornography : a good idea to liberate sexuality but stucked in a prison of gender

    Men and women are alienated because of their gender socially constructed and the sexuality made by it. We just have to start from a very simple point : the actor is reduced to his penis and his sexual identity is reduced to the masculine gender according to which, man takes pleasure from the body of the woman (and that’s why he’s most of the time not paid) ; whereas the actress is reduced to her body which needs to appear outrageously “feminine”, and this feminine is reduced to the submission of the male sexe by “cumshot” (and that’s why she’s paid a lot, because she is soiled). But men and women are not victims of pornography, they are victims of the social vision of what is sexuality and what is a man and a woman in front of it.

    Men as actors are maybe victims in the most vicious way in this process, in the sense where their victimisation is subscribed  to their male character which make the pornography as a way to simply “empty their balls”. The actor cannot play in gay films without seeing his virility and masculinity being discredited. The “I do it for the ass” means that this “ass” has to be a woman one. Furthermore, the man is only presented in the face of his penis, a phallic form which emerges from the body, which aggresses. The violence of this reification, of the man as a sexual object is very shocking because the man is designated by his penis in erection. Finally, men in society as in pornography are defined as aggressives, and the relationship with them can just be a relation of strength.  The social construction of the masculinity and virility is based on the duration of an erection with a state of non-feeling. The man in society does not suffer, he does not cry, he is strong. Here, in pornography, we do not see his reactions, his feeling or his pleasure (it is extremely rare to see the face of the man, it is mostly cut) but only the strength of his arms which hold the body of a woman, and his hard penis, penetrating her.

     For the actresses, the situation is different because they don’t suffer the same oppression. They are victims of the vision that have society on the pornographic activity which would be particularly demeaning and depreciatory for two principals reasons : (1) the social construction of the wise and well-behaved woman who has to be a model of vertu. All the womankind needs to look like a virgin and cannot have any sexual desire or even masturbating. (2) The social construction of the “respect” and the woman who “respect herself” in not going soil her body in utilizing it as an ejactulator support. In this way, more than a reflect of the society, the pornography allows to reaffirm the gender in reducing the woman as submissive and the men as dominator and aggressive.

How should we see an opened-door to the gender and sexuality emancipation in Pornography tho ?

     What is important finally, is not to say that pornography is a fail of what could have been a sexual liberation, but to know that if the project has failed, it is because of its environment and not because of the idea in itself (to film sexuality). As a matter of fact, it would be interesting to imagine a pornography able to exist by itself without being a victim of the society but an actress in the society to liberate the sexuality from the prison of gender. According to Ruwen Ogien the massive diffusion of pornography could diminuate the social injustice : it permits to recognize all the practices and the desire which exist and give them dignity.

      This is actually the fight of the producer Erika Lust, mother and pro-sexe feminist who has a diploma in the gender study. She explains that 56% of the girls between 15 and 18 years are disgusted by pornography. This for her, is a real problem because pornography has to create some desire ALSO in the woman spectator. That’s why, we need to get out this outrageous construction of femininity (and also masculanity) : blond hair, big tits, short clothes etc. “Desperate babysitters, easy girl, the woman is an object for the satisfaction of men’s desire” and this is not because of men or of the pornography according to her, but this is just because pornography is a speech on the sexuality, the masculinity and the femininity that have been only gave by macho men, imprisoned in the social construction of the gender. Indeed, this old masculine speech is not in tune with the woman position in our society anymore, or even with the homosexual, pansexual, bisexual sexuality.

      For that, I can only invite you to reconsider your opinion about pornography (if it was negative) because I really think that we can find in it a real liberation of the sexuality which have been imprisoned by the social vision of gender. Also, I will add that if we have to struggle against the prison of the gender, this is not simply a woman or a man fight, because it would reduce us again to our sexes, but above all : a human fight.